Leading with love: The lifelong impact of my father’s wisdom
Women Leaders24.07.2024
I wouldn’t be the person I am today without the love and wisdom my father shared with me.
My father’s foundation shaped my life and career. He was more than a father — he was a mentor, teacher, spiritual advisor, visionary, and friend. His influence continues to guide me today, both at work and in life.
Here are his five key life lessons I carry with me and I strive to pass on through my work as a career coach, helping clients find joy and fulfillment.
Lesson 1: Resilience
From a young age, my father took on the role of primary caregiver after my parents split up. He did everything from buying our clothes to taking us to doctors’ appointments. His commitment taught me resilience. He never gave up on anything he was doing, instilling in me the value of perseverance.
His dedication showed me challenges are opportunities for growth and learning. As he often reminded me, “The race is not for the swift, but for those who endure to the end. Don’t give up on your dreams.”
Lesson 2: Integrity
My father’s approach to parenting differed from societal expectations. He ensured we were raised with love and respect in a harmonious and peaceful environment.
Education was paramount to him. He always said, “No one can take your education away from you.” His relentless pursuit of knowledge and integrity influenced my leadership style.
I remember countless debates where he was confident enough to admit when he learned something from us. This openness and humility are qualities I bring to my coaching practice, encouraging clients to embrace lifelong learning.
Lesson 3: Empathy
One of the most profound lessons my father taught me was empathy. My stepmother was very judgmental, and my sister started mirroring this behavior. My father sat her down and explained, “Do not judge until you have walked in their shoes.”
This simple yet powerful lesson has guided my interactions throughout my life. Today, I remind my friends and clients to approach others with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment.
Lesson 4: Financial responsibility
Fathers play a crucial role in shaping self-esteem and providing inner strength. My father set the standard for what a healthy relationship should look like. He was always there for emotional support and security.
One lesson he emphasized was never telling your children you can’t afford something. He believed that if you say this after working all day, children would wonder why you work if you can’t afford things. Instead, he taught us to explain the situation honestly and set expectations, saying something like, “Mommy is paying extra bills this week, but next week we’ll get it.”
This approach prevented financial stress from being passed on to us and taught us the value of money without creating a sense of lack.
Lesson 5: Finding and following your purpose
My father’s unwavering support and belief in my potential were the catalysts for my career in coaching. Watching him help others and share his knowledge made me realize the profound impact one person can have on the lives of many.
He always encouraged me to find my purpose and use my strengths to help others. This guidance planted the seed for my passion in helping people discover their own potential and navigate their careers with confidence and integrity. Without his influence, I might not have found my calling in coaching, which is now my way of honouring his legacy and continuing his tradition of empowering others.
Enduring wisdom
My father’s principles of kindness and respect are ingrained in me. As a senior manager and part of executive management teams, I practice compassionate leadership. Employees thrive when they feel supported by their organization, and I strive to create an environment where everyone can succeed.
Reflecting on my father’s influence, I see how his teachings have shaped my approach to leadership and life. His wisdom continues to guide my personal and professional journey. He always said, “Trust and respect everyone you meet until they prove otherwise; trust and respect are not earned.” This philosophy has helped me meet and continue to meet some of the most wonderful people so I can impart his wisdom to them, carrying forward his legacy.
